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Community and mental health services for Southampton, Portsmouth and parts of Hampshire and the Isle of Wight.


Be kinder to yourself this Valentines

Diverse hands forming love heart
Love your smile

Being kind to one another is taught from a young age but being kind to ourselves is not encouraged enough. Showing ourselves kindness, understanding and care is key in taking control of our wellbeing. Over the last year we have had more time to think than normal and if you are not in a positive mindset this can be a struggle. In order to help build new habits that lead to improved self-love we have put together some tips that we encourage you to practice on a day to day basis.

  • Be honest with yourself
    There are often blurred lines between self-care and letting yourself off the hook, it is important to be aware of the difference. Make sure you are actually caring for yourself and whatever you are doing is improving your mental or physical wellbeing.
  • Practice gratitude
    This will allow you to recognise your self-worth and appreciate your own qualities as you would if they were in other people. You could try adding these to a list to refer to when you need a positive boost.
  • Exercise
    Looking after your physical body is a big part of self-love, try and set some time aside to be active in your day – even if it is just 10 minutes. If you can do this outside, even better!
  • Congratulate yourself
    At the end of every day (even if it has felt like a bad day), try to reflect and congratulate yourself on something you did or achieved, even if it seems like a small reason.
  • Acknowledge your feelings
    Try not to ignore how you are feeling, try to show yourself compassion by valuing your own needs and wants.
  • Take positive actions
    Once you have acknowledged any negative feelings try to solve these with a positive action. A simple action could eliminate or reduce the impact of these feelings.

Self-love should be a lifestyle so even if you consciously take on one of these tips you will hopefully notice an improvement in treating yourself with more kindness and care. Look out for our #LoveYourSmile campaign in the coming week, including the launch of our Solent Sessions podcast. Episode one will be live this Friday at 11am, with special guest Hazel Anderson-Turner, Business Psychologist and Coach.

With that said, we are here to support you. If you would like someone to talk to or extra support with your mental health, you can always get in contact with us. We have a range of mental health services available to you, as well as a list of online and telephone support you can access.

Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS)

Please visit our services page for specific services and contact details. Alternatively, contact our Patient Advice and Liaison Service by emailing or calling the number below. You can also give us feedback, make a complaint or share a compliment.

0800 013 2319

*Lines are open Monday to Friday 10am – 4pm.

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Phone: 0300 123 3919

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Our administrative and managerial centre is based in Southampton.

While our services can be found around various NHS locations in Southampton and Portsmouth (and surrounding districts), our administrative and managerial centre is based in Southampton at:

Highpoint Venue
Bursledon Road
SO19 8BR

If you require a printable version of how to find us including bus times, car access and bike info please download our leaflet. (Copyright of Highpoint Venue).

Central office phone: 0300 123 3390

*Lines open Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.

If you are a journalist with a media enquiry, please contact the Communications Team at:

0300 123 4156 or 02381 031076

The Communications Office is open Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.